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There's Always Room to Improve


          Within any marriage, normally towards the beginning of the marriage, it is easy to recognize faults not only in yourself, but also in your spouse. These little faults can range from little things like not putting the dirty dishes away, to bigger things like aggression or lack of communication. Regardless, these faults are the responsibility of the person who possess them to improve for the sake of their marriage. At no point should either partner in a marriage expect the other to change completely as a person (you should know who you married), but I do think it is fair for compromises to be made in order to assure a happy marriage.
          I have not been married for very long (almost two years), but I have seen the importance of this in my marriage so far. My husband is six years older than me and had a lot of time on his own to develop his own way of living life, sustaining himself, etc. while I did not have a lot of time to do that. I remember that, unknowingly and innocently on his end, he would make decisions and go about things in a way that he was comfortable with or that he deemed as the best way to do things just out of habit before counseling with me about them. He would not do this on purpose, but it was something that slightly bothered me and that I wanted to be a little more included in. He completely understood and, though it took a few months, he became so good at including me in decision making and accepting that there is not just one right way to do something.
         I have plenty of faults of my own and I look at my husband as being a very patient man, but some of these faults that he has brought up to me are faults that I needed to change or improve on in order to make him happy. This is what marriage is about! You married the most important person in your life, so why wouldn’t you want to make them as happy as possible? Making constant improvements all through your marriage (whether you’ve been married for 2 years or 52 years) is essential in keeping that marriage healthy and full of love.

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