I was fortunate enough to marry into a family where my
in-laws are very pleasant and loving people. From the moment my husband and I
started dating, I developed a very good relationship with them and really
enjoyed being in their company. I began dating my husband in Rexburg and he is
originally from Idaho Falls. For those of you who don’t know, Idaho Falls is
just a short 25 minute drive from Rexburg. We would go there every Sunday for
dinner with his family and, normally, another time during the week to do some
kind of activity. I didn’t mind at all and really enjoyed having a family unity
there since my family was 500 miles away in Las Vegas.
When my husband and I
got married, the relationship with them did not change. They were still loving,
not overbearing, and gave us our space. The only thing I noticed was the number
of times my husband would call his parents for advice or other things once we
were married. I completely understood staying in very close contact with them
while we were only dating, but I noticed myself feeling a little sad when he
would go to his mom or dad for advice before me or call up his mom or dad when
something good would happen before telling me. Now, this could very well just
be me being possessive, but this was something that I wanted to address with
him before habits were set in stone for our whole marriage.
I communicated my
thoughts with my husband and explained how now that I am his wife and his
partner, I should be a little more present in those kinds of things. I made it
clear that I in no way wanted him to stop talking to his parents or refrain
from asking them for advice, but I just let him know that I wanted to be an
important voice as well. He completely understood where I was coming from and
since then, it has been great. We are good about communicating with each other
first before talking to out parents not because we know that will make each
other happy necessarily, but because we know that we are each other’s partner.
I am so grateful for the great relationship that my husband has with his
parents, however, but I am also grateful for the special relationship that I
have with my husband as well.
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